Who here hasn’t heard of the movie ‘Inside Out’ by Pixar? Well, maybe only 1 percent would say no because this movie became instantly famous when it first came out back in 2015. This movie not only had made people cry, but it also made people understand more about emotions and communications.
‘Inside Out’ tells a story about an 11 years old girl named Riley who had to move with her parents from Minnesota to San Francisco, leaving behind her friends, house and basically her old life. This is the point of Riley’s life in which she has to deal with her emotions, which were personified as cartoon characters.
The five personifications of her emotions are Joy, Sadness, Fear, Disgust and Anger. According to a suggestion made by two psychologists, Paul Ekman, and Dacher Keltner, a total of 21 various emotions could have been presented in ‘Inside Out’. That’s a lot of emotions! The movie director, Pete Docter, initially intended to add ‘Schadenfreude’, as the sixth character which will portray pride who is pleased in the pain of others. But because it will become too crowded, then they had stuck with 5 emotions.
“The Emotions are kind of like the voices in our heads,”- Pete Docter
So, why talk about a movie that is already 3 years old? Well, for a start, it is because sometimes, even as adults, we can hardly understand our own emotions. This movie could be a start for us to learn how to do so. It’s a movie that has gotten a special place in many people’s heart!
“I just think it’s really beautiful that you guys are making a story that tells kids that it’s difficult to grow up and it’s OK to be sad about it.” -Mindy Kaling (plays Disgust)
Here are the 5 life lessons that we can pick up from ‘Inside Out’!
To have a good life is to experience all sorts of emotion
In this movie, there is a character named Joy, a glowing girl with a bright personality who is in charge of making Riley happy. To her, success is to have as many happy days as possible for Riley. Joy feels that in order to have a good life, one should never go through hardships and not to experience emotions like fear, disgust or anger.
Instead of expecting our lives to be easy and filled with 24 hours, 7 days and 4 weeks of happiness, learn to expect hardships too. For it is through difficulties that we will grow, experience other emotions and control them and appreciate life more.
Crying is not a bad thing
Another strong yet underestimated character in ‘Inside Out’ is Sadness. She appears to be slumped-shouldered, unenergetic and slows down Joy in the process of fixing Riley’s state of mind.
Although the film portrays Sadness as a sluggish source of annoyance, it is actually the other way around. Sadness plays an important role in our minds as it signals us to cry. We cry when we’re sad or simply feeling down. And when something goes wrong or lost, we take time to do anything, process and cry. Imagine not feeling sad and not being able to cry. Crying actually makes us feel a lot better and pretty much reduces the weight on our shoulders.
Sadness can be more powerful than happiness
Things got quite difficult when Riley moved to Minnesota. She needs to adapt to a lot of changes and at the same time feeling burdened to appear happy as her parents would have wanted. The film showed that Riley experienced too many emotions (anger and disgust) at the same time making her feel overwhelmed.
Because she was unable to manage her internal conflict, she began to lose interest in connecting with people and participating in the things that she used to love like her ice hockey sport. This is actually an old representation of depression.
The moment when she started to feel numb, one powerful emotion broke through. Sadness took over the control center and caused Riley to bursts into tears, crying her heart out and unleashing the feelings that she has been keeping to herself. She told her parents everything.
“I know you don’t want me to, but… I miss home. I miss Minnesota. You need me to be happy, but I want my old friends and my hockey team… I wanna go home. Please don’t be mad…” — Riley
This really shows how powerful Sadness is rather than happiness. Sadness has made her cry and feel a lot better.
Feeling sad is normal
At the beginning of the film, Riley’s mother had praised her for being “brave and happy” when she managed to keep smiling even though the family was facing a difficult transition. Unconsciously, Riley’s mother may have suggested that the best way to cope with hardships is to put a smile on her face.
Riley struggled a lot in adapting and all and felt difficult to fulfill her parents wish for her to be happy. This is where things could go wrong. Instead of saying “be happy all the time”, parents should also teach their children that it is okay to be sad sometimes. And that they’re there for them.
It’s okay to open up
Finding someone to talk to about our problem is really encouraged. Don’t ever feel that by being alone and swallowing everything would solve the problem. Things could get worse. Talk to our loved ones and raise any concerns about anything that has been bothering us. Share about all the good and bad stories. Not only that our family bond could become stronger, but we ourselves would eventually become calmer, positive and of course stronger.
“The real star of the film is sadness, for Inside Out is a film about loss and what people gain when guided by feelings of sadness,” – Paul Eckman & Dachen Keltner
Content from: Success