Here Are 7 Things Muslimahs Look For In A Man

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I know it is hard. You are really trying to figure this all out. Muslim women can come off as intimidating. At the end of the day we are still women and desire the same things as any other  woman.

So, you really want to know?

What are Muslim women looking for? What do we really want in a Muslim man?

I am going to spill the tea so get your pen and paper ready.

 

1. HANDLES THE BUSINESS

 

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We want a man who can handle his stuff. He should have his finances right and be able to provide for a family. Now before you start rolling your eyes or doubting yourself, keep in mind that we ain’t asking you to be a millionaire. A majority of us have jobs and do not need you as a main source of income. We just need to know that you can handle the finances. Women need to feel financially secure.

 

2. FOLLOW THE LEADER

 

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Source: tonymyles

 

There is nothing more attractive than a man who has excellent leadership qualities. He is solid, confident and just. He knows when to consult the wifey. He is firm yet understanding. We want to be sure that when an issue arises you will have the answers. There is a very fine line between being a good leader and having a whacked ego. Do not be shy to consult us for advice. Be ambitious and have long term plans. These types of men are the ones who get the ladies. We are drawn to them.

 

3. MUSHY GUSHY

 

 

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Most, not all, women like a brotha to be affectionate and caring. I know societal factors indicate it is not very masculine to show affection towards your wife but a smart man understands the importance of this. Hold her hand, gently touch her or kiss her. Show her that she means the world to you. Sometimes this can be as simple as saying “I love you” when she least expects it. Most of us will say we want a sensitive man but then we talk crap about you when you cry all over the place. I love me a sensitive man who is in touch with his emotions. But an experience slightly changed my opinion. I knew a brotha who would cry after Bollywood movies. All the time… Ya’ll know where that went…

 

4. ALL EARS

 

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We love to talk, talk and then talk some more. You need to listen. Listen intently. Not while you are on Facebook or Twitter or playing video games.  I know you don’t really care that I had the most awful hijab day at work. Most of the time we are not seeking advice, we’re simply letting steam off. This is all part of the female psyche.  It might not be important to you but she is important to you. Listen to her ramble because it’s part of the package. After she is done say something along these lines, “Honey boo boo pie, I am so sorry you had a bad hijab day at work. I think you look great, as always.” Look at her when you say this. Not at the TV.

 

5. ONLY ONE

 

 

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Nothing is wrong with being a tad bit possessive or jealous. Most women want to feel like they are the only one. This pointer is based on circumstance though. Since there are some brothas and sistas involved in polygamous relationships there are exceptions to this rule. This piece of advice is geared towards those who are committed strictly to one another. Don’t have casual relationships with other women since this leads to suspicion. The “only friends” excuse is mumbo jumbo.

 

6. THE “S” WORD

 

 

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Source: awakeningwomen

 

She has needs as well so approach her correctly. Sexuality is often defined by the individual but most women approach sex in a totally different manner than men do. We often like it slower and at our own pace. Do not rush or get too eager. Be open with your communication when it comes to what she likes or dislikes. She might be shy to tell you what she wants. NEVER assume that because you are enjoying it that she is as well. Have an honest dialogue and be open to pleasing her. Good sex is a very fundamental element in a successful relationship. Allah gave you the tools now use them correctly my brotha!

 

7. PRESENTS

 

 

We lovvveeee gifts. Random gifts and surprises make every woman happy! Also, it gives you extra brownie points. You never know you might need a favor, right? The exchanges of gifts soften the heart. I’m not talking diamonds or cars here. It’s the simple stuff such as flowers, candies, etc… I call these “everyday gifts” because we save the big gifts for Eid.

Once you know and understand these concepts it’s really not that difficult to keep your woman happy. It’s the brothas who don’t know who complain about women being difficult creatures from another planet.

Now you know, spread the knowledge!

 


Republished from MuslimNLove
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