#CelebrateLove: How To Love Yourself Before Marriage
Asalamualaikum everyone 🙂
In today’s post, I’d like to talk about ways to love yourself before marriage. I felt that since it is the month of February, it would be appropriate to write about this topic and share some insight to those of you who are single and/or not ready to marry.
As someone who has been engaged for a while, I’ve learned a lot as I’ve gone through this transition from being single to “almost married”. A major point that I’ve experienced and really want to stress is that it is important to develop your own identity before you decide to join forces with someone else. As a society that tends to push for marriages at a younger age, we as Muslims should emphasize to the younger generation that they should be proactive during their early years and focus on building a foundation for themselves.
For your happiness, it is vital to accept that you have strengths and weaknesses. Every person in this world is given a different set of cards that frames our lives. It is up to us as individuals to look at the cards we are dealt with and use them to our advantage. Practice self love, do your best to conquer your ambitions, and Inshallah this will guide you on the straight path.
One of the best ways to love yourself before marriage is by researching Islam. You are growing to become an adult and will have to make many important decisions along the way. It is important that you know your religion and can identify where you fall on the scale between liberal and conservative. Keeping this information in mind will guide you for the rest of your life and put you on the path to success.
Another reason that researching your religion can be a form of self love is because it gives you a shield. Unfortunately, it happens ever so often that someone will try to expect something from you that is not required in Islam. At that time, those who know their rights in the religion will be better prepared and will know what to say and how to react. This is especially important when you are about to get married because a little conflict is very common when two families are joining together. During this time, it is vital that you stay patient and share that your wish is to follow the teachings of Islam.
Last but not least, I’d say that growing a backbone is a great way to love yourself. I didn’t grow mine until recently, and it has honestly changed my life. If someone decides to be confrontational, it is important to stand your ground and support your decisions. Showing confidence is a way of showing that you love yourself and trust me, it will make people think twice about stepping on your toes. Speak up and be heard, because being worried and stressed out about not having the courage to say something isn’t worth it.
I hope these tips gave you some valuable information on how to love yourself before marriage. If you follow this advice, you will be a lot more proactive and better prepared for the ups and downs that naturally come along with life. Feel free to leave a comment if this information was helpful and if you have anything to add to the list.