Ramadan Lessons: Patience and Kindness

Fasting is meant to teach us to be patient with others and to treat them with kindness.

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We are now at our final hurdle of Ramadan. To those of you who feel like they have not made the best of this Ramadan just yet, know that every moment in our lives counts. Allah decides the merit of our time based on the quality of our worship and not the quantity. So, we still have time to make the best out of the month!

One of the best things to remind ourselves in the final hurdle of Ramadan while we are chasing time to pray in the Masjid, getting prepared for Raya/Eid, and etc is to be kind and patience. I know personally that it is not easy. We’ve been running on an empty stomach during the day for almost a month, and our daily hum drums still carry on even with our late nights and early morning schedule.

However, I find that the most challenging thing to help me stay patient and kind at times is people above anything else. I recently read a Facebook post about how a sister who is not able to fast during Ramadan due to that time of the month was bullied and shamed publicly because she was eating out in the open by some people who did it in the name of Islam.

Reading stories like these breaks my heart, for I feel that they have lost the spirit as to why they are fasting. Fasting is meant to teach us to be patient with others and to treat them with kindness.

It is supposed to be difficult when others who are not fasting, eat or drink in front of us and that is why we would get twice the reward. To get upset and throw tantrums at other people is not the prophetic behavior at all.


“Do you know what is better than charity and fasting and prayer? It is keeping peace and good relations between people, as quarrels and bad feelings destroy mankind.” –Prophet Muhammad S.A.W-


The Prophet was known for his generosity and he was especially more generous during Ramadan. We need to remember that generosity is not limited to just us giving alms and charity to others in monetary form. It is how we treat others as well. We need to learn to be generous with our words, and our attentiveness towards other people.

To lift others and help them make their journey lighter in a month that can be challenging is part of our duty while we fast and remain on the earth. But how do we deal with people who publicly humiliate another fellow Muslim and are not adhering to the spirit of Ramadan?

I like to keep in mind that some people’s sole purpose in our lives is to make it difficult. They could be the strangers we meet and spend an awful 5 minutes with, or they could be the people we have to see everyday due to circumstances beyond our control.

This is why I feel the best thing to do is to look at them as just that, a test for us. Nothing more, nothing less. Know that the best part of their day is petty achievements like bringing others down, while for the believers the best part of their day is to carry on the Prophetic tradition with good character. The Prophet is our teacher so we should behave according to his teachings.

So, chase the night prayers in our last nights in Ramadan and give charity as much as possible but always remember to do it with a smile and with kindness.


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